There have been lots of discussions online about which type of diabetes is worse. You can find this in forums or blogs or FB discussions. When I find myself thinking too much (which happens all too often, I’m afraid), I tend to minimize my own D in comparison to others. Things could be so much worse. I personally feel that people with T1 have it harder than I do, and yet, I’ve had a T1 comment that they think it’s harder for those of us with T2. Who knows? In the end, it doesn’t matter because I’m of the opinion that the worst diabetes is the one we have. No matter what type of D we are dealing with, it’s the worst because it’s affecting us. We all need support and understanding.
I recently experienced something on a FB page that left me feeling awful and unsupported, by people with diabetes. I posted about my concern about the spike I experienced after eating spaghetti squash, as I spoke about here. I was really looking to see if someone had any suggestions on what could have caused the spike or if anyone else had had issues with this squash. While a couple of people made an attempt to help it ended up that the majority of responses went something like this: “I don’t know why you’re upset. That isn’t such a big spike.” “Heck, if I ate that much I’d be looking at a 200 on my meter!” “I can’t even eat a slice of bread without spiking.” The overwhelming theme was “You’re complaining about that? Quit worrying.” I nearly felt like I was being attacked for my concern. Granted, my overly emotional state yesterday probably had a lot to do with my reaction to this, but even today, when I’m feeling more “stable”, I’m still upset about it and I’m not bound to go to that group for support in the future. That’s sad.
Here’s what I’m thinking today: Why is it the consensus that we shouldn’t be concerned about something to do with our D if it isn’t as bad as someone else’s issue? Should support only be given to those in “bad shape”? Why shouldn’t I be able to ask a legitimate question about my life with D even if my control is good? I agree that we shouldn’t worry about one number. I know that, but I was truly concerned about this situation because I want to know why a high fiber carb like spaghetti squash caused my glucose to rise higher than anticipated. I’m here to tell you that I wouldn’t have the control I do now without constant vigilance and problem solving. If I didn’t pay attention to trends then I’d be in pretty bad shape. I know in my heart of hearts that my hard work and attention to detail has led to my success. So what, should I stop paying attention now? I don’t think so.
The point I’d like to make in this post is that it doesn’t matter what level of control someone has when dealing with diabetes; we all need support. It doesn’t matter what type of diabetes someone has; one isn’t worse than the other. Think about that the next time you give someone advice about their D. Don’t minimize someone’s concerns. It could be that they’re just learning or maybe they’re an “old timer”; if they’re concerned it’s for a reason and that concern should never be dismissed out of hand.
PS: to update on my spaghetti squash incident, I think it may have been the sauce more than the squash…and possibly the quantity. I’m not giving up on this healthy alternative to pasta!!